Saying hello – it’s that simple

I’ve always been an introvert kind of person, and while I’ve been trying to improve my conversing skills, I still find that it takes me several deep breaths and internal pep talks (somewhere along the lines of ‘Come on Katherine, you can do this, no one’s gonna judge even if you do stumble through all your words and momentarily forget how to speak the English language.’) before I’m able to go up to the stranger and say ‘hi’. Part of me fears the prospect of me making an absolute fool out of myself; the other part of me fears the possibilities this two-letter word could open me up to – in particular, the possibility of having to reveal a part of myself in order to maintain the conversation and stop it from dwindling into the much-dreaded awkward silence. This might sound silly, but I feel like when I open myself up to someone, I am opening myself up to their scrutiny. I feel like I’m placing myself in this vulnerable position where I’m fragile like glass and any cruel word that escapes from their lips might just shatter me.

But a girl I was talking to a couple days ago (yes! she started off as a total stranger) told me that everything begins with a ‘hi’, and if you never dare to say a simple hello, who knows what possibilities you could be missing out on? Sure, every now and then, you might embarrass yourself so much that you just want the earth beneath you to swallow you up and save you from public humiliation. But sometimes, you might just meet that someone who is worth your time, who is worth all those times of embarrassment. Sometimes, that person you said a simple ‘hi’ to, might just turn out to be your best friend, your soulmate, someone whom you know will always have your back no matter what.

So next time, don’t deprive yourself of the chance to get to know others and to let others get to know you. Next time, just go up to that person, smile and say hello. It really is that simple.

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18 thoughts on “Saying hello – it’s that simple

  1. Hello :), I find that you and I have a lot in common. I’m introverted as well, and I feel that I have awkward social skills. But I feel that being online and with an online community such as this one, I can communicate better and confidently.

    I wonder if you’re the same, so kudos for taking these steps in writing!

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    1. Then you and I do have much in common! I also find myself able to communicate my thoughts much better in online communities; it’s like I’m less fearful and therefore more capable of expressing myself? Thank you for reading πŸ™‚

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  2. Not surprisingly, I can relate so well to this post, especially the latter part of your first paragraph. And that second paragraph holds more of your thought provoking words, “sometimes, you might just meet that someone who is worth your time, who is worth all those times of embarrassment”. I found myself thinking, “OH YEAH”. You are very very right! πŸ˜€ As always, the way you communicate through words is so fluid, I find my eyes running down each sentence as easily as I waterbend.

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    1. Very true, I suppose people sometimes fear the embarrassment or disappointment that might follow, and as a result, tend to overthink everything. I know that I for one have that tendency to overthink just a little too much!

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  3. This is a really great post, I love the message and it’s so true!

    I used to be exactly the same way, always very shy and kept myself to myself but over the years and experiences, I’ve become (somewhat) more confident.

    When I was back in university, that’s when I started to implement this idea and I made a real effort to sit next to another person, a complete stranger, every class that I had – rather than stick to what I know. It was great and I loved finding out about so many people, where they had come from and the path that had led them here, in the seat next to mine… all started with a ‘hi’.

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    1. Thank you!! Glad you think so! I’m planning to try the same thing as you did in uni (I’m just starting uni!), and in recent volunteering jobs that I’ve taken, I’ve made a real effort to talk to as many people as I can, and it was actually really wonderful getting to know people personally, even if I won’t be seeing them again in the near future. Thank you for sharing your experiences with me! I really appreciate it πŸ™‚

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      1. Thank you! I’m planning to study media and communications – and one day, I hoping to inspire people and make a positive difference (one way or another) to this world via new media πŸ™‚ Yes! I’m really looking forward to uni and to meeting new people.

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      2. Fantastic! I studied Film and Media, which had the communications element too. I really enjoyed the modules, I hope that you enjoy the ones on offer too. Looking forward to following your journey, and more thoughts like the one above!

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  4. WOW, this is really a real life story of me HAHA. For introvert people like us we often think really complicated and often cares a lot about other opinions of ourselves. Because of this, sometimes we may even betray our own personality just to avoid the feeling of embarrassment by avoiding do what we want to. But in reality, everyone is like that and that’s why we must voluntarily say the HI not only as a mean to make more friends but also as inspirations to similar people like us. A REALISTIC AND AMAZING PIECE OF WISDOM!!!

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  5. It’s like we’re the same person. I’ve always been an introverted person and still am. I still don’t like being in new places surrounded by new people because I am always afraid to go up and say ‘hi’ to a person. Only once I forced myself to do just that when I was about 15 or 16, I went up to this boy at a teen Christian retreat we were at and started to talk to him, asking him about the guitar he was playing and all that. It was so scary for me, but I did make a friend that day (though we lost touch after I started college, as I’m older than him). I can’t say I’ve done this on my own since then, but I know I need to change that. Especially knowing that saying ‘hi’ to someone can really make their day πŸ™‚

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    1. Wow, thank you so much for sharing your story with me πŸ™‚ and it’s nice to hear that you can relate to me! I suppose you’re right, sometimes all it takes to brighten someone’s day is just by smiling and saying ‘hi’ to them.

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