Barriers

There have always been barriers placed around me by my parents, perhaps even by myself, to protect me; to shield me from the bad; to mould me into the person I’m ‘meant’ to become; the person who’s fitter, smarter, healthier and in all regards ‘better’. But now I’m realising that being this ‘better’ person is not the same as being your own person; that these barriers are a little like ropes bound around my arms and ankles, restraining me, limiting me, forcing me to grow in a certain way and denying me the chance to explore all those other possibilities out there.

I think that in a way, I’ve always acted like a “good girl”, not because I like being obedient and compliant all the time, but because I’ve always made that unconscious decision to confine myself within the barriers surrounding me, never choosing the option of venturing beyond my walls; always too afraid of taking big risks, too afraid of what I’ll find in unknown territory, too afraid of change and the disappearance of familiar things that give my life some degree of normalcy and constancy.

Yet change is inevitable, and even if I don’t go past my barriers, change will occur. Might as well let myself be in control of some of that change. Might as well take a chance beyond those walls even if I am terrified… especially if I’m terrified. After all, as I said before in ‘To take a leap of faith’, if the prospect of doing something doesn’t terrify you a single bit, then it’s probably something not worth doing. So if the thought of leaping over or breaking through your barriers makes your heart beat just that little bit faster or your throat grow just that little bit tighter, then it just means that it’s something worth doing; it’s something worth pursuing; it’s something worth living for.

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4 thoughts on “Barriers

    1. Thank you so much! Your words mean a lot to me. I suppose it’s a good thing to know that there are others out there who are going through the same or similar things; to know that you’re not alone in your struggles. The burdens we have to carry grow just that little bit lighter when we realise that life may be hard but at least we’re not enduring its hardships on our own 🙂

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  1. I understand 🙂 I think you know, that one of the many lame mottos I go by include: better to regret doing something than regret not doing it. Consequently, in most of my late night brooding sessions, a lot of the foolish and rash things I’ve done resurfaces, and man, does that suck.

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    1. I’m quite the opposite – sometimes I overthink so much that I end up NOT doing a LOT of things, and in my late night brooding sessions, I think in regret of what could have happened had I had the courage to do those things. I suppose, in life, we have to find a balance between what to do and what not to do; between what risks to take and what risks not to take.

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